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Let’s face it:  We all want to eventually meet a mate that we can have a committed, long term relationship with.  I recently had a meal with a friend and it sparked this blog.  This person is a pretty wonderful person in almost every way but this person does one thing that is totally inexcusable.   So I put together a top list of things that will keep you single (in no particular order):

1. SMOKING– I don’t even need to explain this one, people.

2. DRUG USE–Again, no explanation needed.

3. OUT OF SHAPE–Look, not everyone can be Mr. Olympia, but you can certainly exercise every day and keep your figure looking good.

4. DRINKS A LOT–This is a sore area from some people.  What defines “a lot?”  To my standards if a person needs to drink at many or all occasions, then that’s a lot (emphasis on the “need” part).  And if they’re certainly getting drunk a lot then that’s just not cool.

5. LAZY:  Again this is my standard of what “lazy” is.  Example: I have a friend who has been jobless for MONTHS!  He complains that he can’t find work, yet every time I call him up and ask, “Hey, whatcha doing?”  He answers, “Oh, just relaxing.  Just chilling out and taking a break.”  I wanna jump through the phone and strangle him.  I wanna scream, “What the heck are you relaxing from?  You don’t DO anything!  You sit around all day.  Take a break from what?!”  So, look, accomplish something, people.  Be productive.  Lazy moments are fine when you work hard.  But don’t do it all the time.

6.  BE A KNOW-IT-ALL:  These are people who constantly contribute with unwanted information or unsolicited advise.  It’s annoying.  Don’t do it.

7.  BE A STORY TOPPER:  Yes, a story-topper.  No matter what you say, this person will tell a story right after yours that is just a little more dramatic than yours.  The problem is, they will either interrupt you or barely let you finish before they start in with theirs.  It’s rude to ignore or not respond to another person’s story and it’s rude to always take the wind out of their sail.

8.  TALK TOO MUCH:  Being a Terherst, my whole family talks a lot.  I became aware of this early on and decided to be more like like dad, a counselor, who is an EXCELLENT listener.  I’ve worked on it for years and now, it’s one of my best traits.  But my friend at lunch was talking CONSTANTLY with no breath and didn’t once ask me a question.  To not acknowledge the other person is so totally rude.  If someone asks, “Where did you go to college?” Then you don’t go into a 17 minute conversation about your college days.  You answer briefly, then throw the ball back with, “How about yourself?  Where you did attend college?”  No one is gonna wanna be with you if you can’t throw the ball back during conversations.  No one likes a ball-hog.